Monday, March 17, 2014
Are You Wearing a Mask?
I think it’s tough to be real…truly authentic. Not afraid of our blemishes and fears. I’m talking about putting ourselves out there.
The truth is, no one likes a complainer so we tell everyone we’re fine when we’re not. We paste on a smile and reel off Christianisms like “too blessed to be stressed”, only to cry out in pain alone. We sit in Bible studies and give pat answers while the others nod in agreement. We talk and act the “right” way…we wear the mask.
Have you ever sat in a class where the teacher is giving a lecture but you’re completely lost? You look around the room and everyone else seems to comprehend the lesson while silently taking notes. You dare not raise your hand for fear of looking foolish.
The teacher finishes, takes a deep breath and asks, “Does anyone have any questions before we move on?”
Cough. Shuffle. Cough. Cough.
“Okay, since you all understand, then turn to page…”
One hand sheepishly goes up in the back. “I’m sorry miss, but I’m confused.”
The teacher sighs and looks around the classroom. “Anyone else not get it?”
Slowly, one by one, all hands go up. A wave of relief washes over you. So you weren’t alone, after all.
This is the problem when we aren’t real. If we don’t put our issues out there, we can never get help. And, by admitting to our own imperfections or struggles, we might end up helping someone else.
It’s not easy being a mother of two kids who have special needs. I make instant connections with other moms of children who have disabilities when I’m honest about the challenges my family faces daily. Before you know it, we are exchanging wonderful ideas and a commitment to encourage each other.
Sometimes we get burned when we put ourselves out there, but maybe we just might be a blessing to someone else.
- Cherie Gagnon