Friday, August 8, 2014

The Good Old Days - Guest Blogger, Nivine Richie

Don’t long for “the good old days.” This is not wise.
~ Ecclesiastes 7:10 (NLT)

My baby leaves for college this week. She graduated from high school in June, so I’ve had time to adjust to the idea of letting her go. In fact, the whole college process began nearly a year ago, and yet, I’m not sure I’m ready for the change. We’re packing what little she’s taking this weekend, and since we don’t know the size of the dorm room, we’ll join all the other parents on the pilgrimage to Wal-Mart after we arrive on campus.

        It’s hard not to long for the good old days. Reading bedtime stories, making play-doh hamburgers at the kitchen table, running on the playground. Then came learning to ride a bike, and with it skinned knees and bruised shins. The middle school years, oh the middle school years. And high school, the scariest of all—first job, first date, first time behind the wheel.

        The transition from one chapter to the next comes to every family, generation, and culture. My parents experienced it, and now my daughter will experience it too. The Old Testament saints were called to leave their homes and go to the land of promise, without a roadmap, and without any details of what to expect. They set out by faith, trusting the One who promised, knowing that He would give them a home and an inheritance. To look back and long for the good old days was sin for them. That would have meant a lack of trust in the One who sent them.

If they had been thinking of that land from which they had gone out, they would have had opportunity to return. But as it is, they desire a better country, that is, a heavenly one. Therefore God is not ashamed to be called their God, for he has prepared for them a city.
~ Hebrews 11:15-16

The saints that went before us understood what it meant to look ahead. We can also look ahead because the future is laid out before Him, even if it looks hazy to us.

        I won’t be able to help myself; I know I’ll cry when we leave her alone in the dorm room and drive home without her for the first time. I can’t stay and watch over her, but just as He’s led us from one chapter to another throughout her childhood, He can be trusted to lead her step by step in the days, months, and years ahead.

        Looking back, the good old days always look rosy. As tender as those days were, I can’t live there. This next chapter in the life of our family is safe in Jesus’ hands. Because of Him, my little girl has a hope and a future.

May God richly bless you, Yasmeen.

Love, Mom.

Nivine Richie is a women’s Bible study teacher in Wilmington, N.C., where she lives with her husband and two teenage children. A university finance professor, she is actively involved in the Christian faculty association on campus. Nivine has participated in and taught many small group studies over the years. She seeks to help others launch their own small group studies and is available to speak at women’s events.
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  1. Other than leaving our first grader at the classroom door, packing one off to college has to be the next hardest step in parenting! May God make his face to shine upon her and be gracious to her.

  2. Thank you for sharing this lovely post, Nivine. My children are still young, but I know the time to let them go will arrive before we know it. I am enjoying every precious moment of childhood!

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  3. "The Lord knows how to keep those who are His." Just as He's been there for us, He'll be there for others too.

  4. Nivine, I will never forget when my first born went to college. Walking away from her to come back home was one of the hardest things I had to do. Our children grow up quickly and leave us far too soon but that is as it should be and we wouldn't change a thing.

    Thank you for sharing!

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  5. Wise words. Wise God. Wise momma. Blessed daughter. We are already missing Yasmeen like crazy! Yet we rejoice at all God has in store for her. Thank you for this very poignant reminder! I will need to re-read it in a year when the last of my little flock leaves for college. Blessing and more as you turn the page on a new chapter in the book of life. Love you dearly my friend!