Thursday, August 7, 2014

Guest Blogger - Lynn Coleman

As I was thinking and praying about a topic to write about for this blog, my mind naturally went to something about my St. Augustine Historical series. Winning the Captain’s Heart, the first of the series, was just released a month ago. And I just turned into the editor the third novel, The Shepherd’s Betrothed, which makes Tuesday’s post from Vickie McDonough very real. However something much more personal started coming to mind. I hesitated in writing about this but I’m reminded that I am not alone in my journey and there may be others who might be encouraged by what I’m about to share.

So I’m taking a deep breath letting it out slowly and opening up a bittersweet topic. Three years ago last month marked the third year of my youngest son’s passing. He died of congestive heart failure and he was only thirty-two years old. Tim was the cuddling kind of a baby, you know the kind, that just loved being held and snuggled and played with. This was something my other two, enjoyed but had the ‘okay Mom I’ve had enough’ kind of kids. Tim answered a longing I was unaware I had until he was born. A special gift from God the creator that touched deep in my soul. He was a great kid and gave the family a lot of laughs. He was artistic and in fact was voted one of the top one-hundred pen and ink artist of the world the last year of his life. Tim also went through a very rough decade when he made poor decisions and wasn’t living a godly life. However this changed the last year and a half and he was right with the Lord and right with his family, another blessing from the Lord. So when Tim died there was a peace in knowing where he was going.

All of that is probably more information than is needed and I considered deleting it but decided it was necessary for you to understand a bit of my heart as a mother. So, why am I sharing this?

Because today is Thoughtful Thursday according to this blog and these are a few of my thoughts regarding the loss of a child. Yes it hurts beyond anything you will ever experience in this lifetime and I pray you will never know that hurt. However, if you are chosen to live in that circumstance know that there is grace, strength and confidence to stand up and face the days ahead. There was an elderly lady in our church, Margaret Wells, who lived to almost 95 years. When we arrived I discovered Margaret had lost a son 25 years prior, and a husband 10 years prior, she was 84 when I met her. Five years later he other son passed away and she said to me, “I don’t know why I’m still here.” After my son, Tim passed I hugged Margaret and said, “one of the reasons you were still here was for me, thank you.” You see Margaret was an example of a women who had braved the storms of life. She was still a loving, kind and generous woman and while she had incredible losses she also had great joys and she didn’t loss her faith. In my opinion she was a woman of strength. She grew up on a farm, lost her mom when she was a teen, was raised by her dad and worked hard. Her husband was also a writer and wrote several sci-fi books, so she understood the ways of a writer and had a fondness for me as well.

Margaret passed two years ago and I miss her. She was a mentor and a friend but she showed me that you don’t have to stay in the depths of the grief that comes our way. I miss Tim more today than I did shortly after he passed but that’s okay. I allow myself to cry when I need to. But there is victory in death for a believer and both Margaret and Tim were believers. Yes there is a pain. Yes there is heart-ache but the sting is not there. What is there is a longing for getting together again with them one day.

Life is an adventure, the question is are you going to live it to the fullest and stand against the hardships? Or are you going to let those battles wear you down?

If you chose to stand, then join me taking one step at a time and raising yourself out of the hardships of life and move forward toward your goals and freedom in Christ.

“Youths may faint and grow weary, and young men stumble and fall,  but those who trust in the Lord will renew their strength; they will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary; they will walk and not faint.”  Isaiah 40:30-31

If my thoughts didn’t scare you, and you would like to enter for a free copy of “Wining the Captain’s Heart” just post a comment. And thanks for taking the time to read this post.


Lynn A. Coleman is an award winning & best-selling author who makes her home in Keystone Heights, Florida, with her husband of 40 years. Lynn's newest novel "Winning the Captain's Heart" released the first of this month. It is the first in her Historical St. Augustine, FL. series. Check out her 19th Century Historical Tidbits Blog if you like exploring different tidbits of history.

24 comments:

  1. Thank you for sharing your heart in this beautiful post. I can't imagine a hurt worse than losing a child.

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    1. You're welcome Patricia, thanks for taking the time to comment.

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  2. What a tender blog, and as a fellow-Floridian,I'm happy to see God is using you and your gift of writing, Lynn. May He continue to guide you on this journey. :)

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    1. Thanks, Diane. He is definitely guiding me.

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  3. "But there is victory in death for a believer, Yes there is a pain. Yes there is heart-ache but the sting is not there. What is there is a longing for getting together again with them one day."
    Amen, sister. Thank you so much for sharing this touching post. We've seen a lot of friends and loved ones pass away in the last couple of years, so I can relate to what you're feeling. It is such a comfort to know that even when we're walking through the valley of the shadow of death, God is with us, and our trials only come to make us strong.

    God bless you, Lynn.

    We've had some really great posts for this birthday bash! I can't wait to see what else is in store.

    Amber Schamel
    Bringing HIStory to Life
    www.AmberSchamel.com

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    1. You're welcome, Amber. I pray that you will continue to know God's peace while encouraging others as friends and family members pass away.

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  4. Thank you for sharing this touching experience, Lynn. Grief is the hardest thing a human being must face. Praise God we can look forward to that great Reunion Day.

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    1. Amen, Elaine. I'm looking forward to it more and more each day.

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  5. I can so relate to what you are going through having lost my Mom a year ago.
    I also agree with what Elaine said about looking forward to that great Reunion Day.
    Janet E.
    von1janet(at)gmail(dot)com

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    1. I haven't lost a parent yet but I did lose both of my in-laws a year after Tim passed. I was their caregiver for the last few months of their lives.

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  6. Thank you, Lynn, for sharing your story. I have been both touched and inspired by your post. I'll be sure to check out "Winning the captain's Heart".

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    1. Thank you, Michele, I hope you enjoy the story. It's a historical with a good samaritan spin.

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  7. Your post is beautiful and touching, Lynn. I am so sorry for the hurt and anguish you have endured. Thank you for sharing your heart, strength, and faith. You are certainly an inspiration and encouragement to many!

    texaggs2000 at gmail dot com

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  8. Thank you, Britney. Sometimes it is hard to share really personal insights about such events.

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  9. Thank you for sharing your heart with us, Lynn. That's what makes a good writer, and it is special when we get a fresh perspective of something personal. Many of us can relate, because we've lost someone close to us, but I find that every grief story is different too. I'd love to win a copy of your book. Since I read over 200 books a year, I need plenty. Thank you for the opportunity.

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  10. Enjoyed reading your comments.
    I am always looking for new authors to read. Your books sound realty interesting.

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    1. You're welcome, Joye. I hope you'll find a new author to follow in me.

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  11. Dear Lynn, you are a Godsend to me today. I am grieving the loss of my father from earlier this year and am in one of those valleys again. I appreciate your transparency and the encouragement you offered to a soul like mine. <3 God bless you!!

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  12. Carla, my heart goes out to you. I know how those moments can be. I've offered up a prayer for you and trust the Lord to give you peace today as you miss your dad.

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  13. A beautiful post, Lynn. It's amazing how not only our words but our lives can be a testimony of the grace God gives so freely. Thanks for sharing part of yours. I feel encouraged already.

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  14. Lynn, thank you for your beautiful post. God is with us every step of the way and holds us close when we need it the most.

    mauback55 at gmail dot com

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  15. Hello Lynn. This was a sad post but also good that we have GOD to help us get through these hard times. Glad you were able to hold on Him and not give up like some do. Sorry you had so much tho. I understand how hard it is to lose family. I am 79 and have lost so many family now. We lost 2 babies, then my sister just older than me. Had 4 sisters and 3 brothers. Now just me and 2 brothers. Now have lost 2 sons-in-law in the past 2 years. I made it with the love of GO and my family. Lost my husband 17 years ago. Just so thankful that had them all as long as I did, and that they were all Christians. GOD bless you. And, I would love to win your book. Maxie > mac262(at)me(dot)com <

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