Don’t long for
“the good old days.” This is not wise.
~ Ecclesiastes
7:10 (NLT)
My baby
leaves for college this week. She graduated from high school in June, so I’ve
had time to adjust to the idea of letting her go. In fact, the whole college
process began nearly a year ago, and yet, I’m not sure I’m ready for the
change. We’re packing what little she’s taking this weekend, and since we don’t
know the size of the dorm room, we’ll join all the other parents on the
pilgrimage to Wal-Mart after we arrive on campus.
It’s hard not to
long for the good old days. Reading bedtime stories, making play-doh hamburgers
at the kitchen table, running on the playground. Then came learning to ride a
bike, and with it skinned knees and bruised shins. The middle school years, oh
the middle school years. And high school, the scariest of all—first job, first
date, first time behind the wheel.
The transition
from one chapter to the next comes to every family, generation, and culture. My
parents experienced it, and now my daughter will
experience it too. The Old Testament saints were called to leave their homes
and go to the land of promise, without a roadmap, and without any details of
what to expect. They set out by faith, trusting the One who promised, knowing
that He would give them a home and an inheritance. To look back and long for
the good old days was sin for them. That would have meant a lack of trust in
the One who sent them.
If
they had been thinking of that land from which they had gone out, they would
have had opportunity to return. But as it is, they desire a better country,
that is, a heavenly one. Therefore God is not ashamed to be called their God,
for he has prepared for them a city.
~ Hebrews 11:15-16
The
saints that went before us understood what it meant to look ahead. We can also
look ahead because the future is laid out before Him, even if it looks hazy to
us.
I won’t be able
to help myself; I know I’ll cry when we leave her alone in the dorm room and
drive home without her for the first time. I can’t stay and watch over her, but
just as He’s led us from one chapter to another throughout her childhood, He
can be trusted to lead her step by step in the days, months, and years ahead.
Looking back,
the good old days always look rosy. As tender as those days were, I can’t live
there. This next chapter in the life of our family is safe in Jesus’ hands.
Because of Him, my little girl has a hope and a future.
May God
richly bless you, Yasmeen.
Love,
Mom.
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Nivine Richie is a women’s Bible study teacher in Wilmington, N.C., where she lives
with her husband and two teenage children. A university finance professor, she
is actively involved in the Christian faculty association on campus. Nivine has
participated in and taught many small group studies over the years. She seeks
to help others launch their own small group studies and is available to speak
at women’s events.
Her new
study, Enduring Faith is available on
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visit her at www.unfoldinghisword.com
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Other than leaving our first grader at the classroom door, packing one off to college has to be the next hardest step in parenting! May God make his face to shine upon her and be gracious to her.
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing this lovely post, Nivine. My children are still young, but I know the time to let them go will arrive before we know it. I am enjoying every precious moment of childhood!
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"The Lord knows how to keep those who are His." Just as He's been there for us, He'll be there for others too.
ReplyDeleteNivine, I will never forget when my first born went to college. Walking away from her to come back home was one of the hardest things I had to do. Our children grow up quickly and leave us far too soon but that is as it should be and we wouldn't change a thing.
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Wise words. Wise God. Wise momma. Blessed daughter. We are already missing Yasmeen like crazy! Yet we rejoice at all God has in store for her. Thank you for this very poignant reminder! I will need to re-read it in a year when the last of my little flock leaves for college. Blessing and more as you turn the page on a new chapter in the book of life. Love you dearly my friend!
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